“You are too strong for a woman. Take it down a notch” he said. 

 

When I heard this I was living in Fargo, ND and “he” was the Vice President of the board of directors of the organization I was leading at the time. Until that moment, I’ve never thought there were degrees of strength and women were allowed only a certain amount. Imagine my surprise!

Have you ever been told you are “too much…” of something or other as women often are? How did you handle it?

 

Well, how I handled it was not in alignment with who I am.  What I did was to let it define me for longer than I care to admit. I am a naturalized Turkish-American. While living in Turkey, the degree of my strength as a woman was a non-issue. I was surrounded by strong women with powerful presence. However, living in the U.S., without the support of strong women, I felt I needed to “play” by the rules of my adopted country.  So I conformed and tried to “bring it down a notch”.

But trying to be someone other than who I really was, took its toll on my professional and personal life. At work, I felt trapped in a high end prison of my own making. I was unintentionally sabotaging my success as a leader, feeling utterly lonely, completely unfulfilled, and questioning if this is what I wanted to do for the rest of my life.

At home, I was either snapping at my husband out of nowhere or not really listening to him. I felt exhausted and going out on dates became a thing of the past. I started to use food to numb myself and my weight crept up.  

I got to a point where I no longer recognized the woman looking back at me in the mirror every morning. I had lost “me”.

Stepping back, I realized that I had lost myself by trying to conform to a tired and outdated model of traditional leadership. And that, rather than taking it down a notch, my strength was exactly the foundation I needed to build a successful career and fulfilling life as a woman leader.

So, I started embracing my own unique leadership style and showing up unapologetically powerful and fearless. This resulted in the highest level of personal and professional success I had ever experienced.  

Today, I work in an organization that I grew from a five figure to seven figure budget; from 5 employees to 17 employees. I am truly enjoying leading my organization, nurturing and mentoring the seventeen emerging women leaders I am privileged to lead.  

In this process, I realized that I wasn’t the only leader who wanted to break free from a career she considered a high end prison of her own making.  

So, if you are finding yourself nodding as you read my story and want to make this  change yourself, I am here for you.

I know that challenging the status quo, going against the norm  can be breathtakingly terrifying! But it doesn’t have to be. And the end result is so worth it. I have walked the journey.   I can help you walk it too.

 

This is your time!  Lead powerfully. Lead Fearlessly.

Nukhet Hendricks

BIO

Nukhet Hendricks, originally from Turkey, has been calling the USA home since 1987 as a naturalized citizen. Nukhet holds a Master of Science degree in Public and Human Service Administration and has been a nonprofit executive for over 20 years in various leadership roles.

In addition to being a Woman’s Leadership Coach and Consultant, she is also the executive director of a local nonprofit that she grew from a low 6 figure to a 7 figure budget. She continues to grow the organization while mentoring the emerging women leaders whom she has the privilege to lead

She is a fiercely independent spiritual rebel and ocean lover with an unquenchable gypsy soul, always yearning for new frontiers!

She is also one of the co-authors of the books:

  • Feminine Voices – True Stories by Women Transforming Leadership (Heal My Voice, Publisher)
  • 365 Life Shifts (Jodi and Dan Chapman, Publisher)
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